A dear friend contacted me about reducing the noise I contribute online, specifically the line Family accomplishments are to be celebrated, not paraded for public consumption.
She recently moved away from family and friends, and they keep everyone updated through Facebook. My post caused her to think (and, far more importantly, pray) about her use of social media. I wanted to share my response (edited for privacy), to clarify my post.
Believe it or not, that one line probably was the hardest to write in
that post. My immediate family lives near me, so I'm not in the position
you are. And I certainly think it's wonderful to share your photos,
etc. with your family. Facebook is a terrific platform for that - yippee for technology! My daughter is 13. Of course, she's mortified whenever I post
anything about her. I try so hard to respect that, and it's rare that
you'll see me post anything personal about her on Facebook or my blog.
I think where I draw the line is the intent of the post. Is it to
update family & friends (celebrating), or is it because I want my
friends to think my children are so cute/smart, etc. (parading/boasting)
As with so many things, it's a matter of the heart. We are wise to
check our motives before each post.
It's not often I agree with (popular Bible teacher), but years ago I heard her speaking about idols. She said
she could come very close to worshiping her children and she had to be
careful with that. I certainly understand what she meant, especially
after having a miscarriage & many health issues that made my girl's
birth a true miracle. Social media has the potential to amp up the
competition among mothers and turn us into child-worshipers.
know for me, for this time in my girl's life, it is wise to avoid posting
about her. Again - most of my family lives nearby and so I don't have
to rely on social media to update them. I certainly understand those who
do, and in no way do I condemn anyone for taking advantage of such a
Kim said it so much better than I. Read her excellent post here.