As I read different posts from everyone & see how many of you have lots of kids (some of you, LOTS of kids!), I'm compelled to answer the question that you MAY be asking or maybe you're not asking at all & I just THINK you are. Because in my "real" life, people still ask this question. YES...CJ's an only child.
We didn't plan to have an only child. God made that decision. After struggling to get pregnant, we had a miscarriage. Finally, after much physical & spiritual healing, we were able to get pregnant again. During my 5th month of pregnancy, my appendix ruptured. Of course, the doctors couldn't x-ray because of the pregnancy...but I'm convinced that an x-ray would've shown the hand of God protecting CJ inside my womb. Despite the odds, she arrived safely and perfectly healthy. She's been the joy of my life & the apple of R's eye ever since.
When CJ was 2, my health problems began. Long story short (and to spare you all the gory details), we can't have any more children. And we're fine with that. When it was all said and done, my doctor was amazed that we even had CJ. I wasn't. We've never doubted that God wants CJ here, and He has a plan for her life.
I'll be honest...there are days I wish CJ had a sibling, because I've loved having a brother and sister ~ most of the time. It would be nice to have more little feet running around. I think it was Bill Cosby who said that people with one child don't qualify as parents because they miss out on so much strife. I know he was joking, but sometimes I can't help but feel that people agree with him & that they judge us for having only CJ. And that's not fair. They just don't know. Still, it hurts.
I envy those of you who have more kids to love. But, I see how blessed I am to have only one child sometimes. Only one car to buy, one college tuition, and one wedding to pay for. No arguing over the back seat. No "He's hitting me!". Three is a good number for our family. It suits us. As always, God knew what He was doing!
Thanks for listening.